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7 Steps To a Happy Relationship!

My husband and I have been married for over 30 years now. It has been anything but smooth sailing. Like most people we have had to navigate some huge storms, but we made it. I would love to tell you we’ve arrived and have a perfect marriage but we don’t. We still have trauma we are healing from and some remnant of our ego’s still lingering. These 7 steps I’m giving today, is what we’ve done to save our marriage and make it a great one. My hope is that you’ll use them to bring hope and happiness to your own marriage/relationship!

Jason März has a great song entitled; “I won’t give up on us!” In that song he says; “I had to learn what I’ve got, what I’m not and who I am!” This completely sums up the foundation that every relationship should be built upon, and that’s our identity!

You are a spiritual being one with Christ! You are extremely powerful, limitless, peaceful, loving, joyful and the light of the world!

You are not your egotistical thoughts that have been created by past painful experiences.

Therefore, you must start practicing; “watching your thoughts like a hawk.” Throw our any egotistical, discouraging thoughts and replace them with Holy Spirit’s truth, that will set you free!

7 Steps To a Happy Relationship

1. Daily “Heart Surgery” is crucial, to heal trauma, tear down walls etc.
2. Be intentional to create thoughts of gratitude and love for your partner, throughout the day. Prepare you heart and mind for their arrival.
3. Be intentional to have vulnerable, transparent, conversations. (Weekly Coffee Dates)
4. Forgiving: When your partner does something to hurt or offend you pause, practice 4-4-4 breathing (breathe in 4sec. hold it 4 sec. out 4 sec.). Then ask yourself why you are upset! Then ask Holy Spirit what the truth is about your partner, the situation and yourself. Finally ask your partner to help you understand, why they did what they did.
5. Trust: when a thought appears that causes you doubt, worries, and fears about them, do “Heart Surgery” on it. Then come together and talk about it. Never let anything just “bother” you! Remember, we often see life through the perspective of our past, which is filled with painful experiences.
6. Intimacy should be fun, playful, erotic, meaningful, spontaneous etc.
7. Be the change! If you want something to change in the relationship, first do “Heart Surgery” on the situation and then, you need to be the first to start making the changes, before you discuss it with your partner.

Heart Surgery

1. Write out the situation:
2. Write out how it’s affected you and how you have tried to cope with it:
3. Ask Holy Spirit the truth about the situation, the truth about your partner and the truth about yourself. Write down what comes to mind!
4. With these truths, decide how you are going to move forward with this situation:

Rhonda Ferguson

Identity Theft Restorer, Teaching People Who They Are and Their Purpose In Life, In Order To Free and Empower Them!