How To Keep Your Husband, Words of Wisdom From an Ex-Adultress!
The greatest fear of a wife is that her husband would cheat on her and yet, most wives are not intentionally trying to keep their husbands. Complacency breeds failure!
The world is filled with adulteress women looking for a good man to steal! I was an adulteress for many years and I’m sad to say, it’s really not that hard to lure a man away! Adulteress’ know that most husbands go home each night to a stressed out, nagging wife, making her husband feel like a weak-loser that can do nothing right!
Give most men a smile, attached with a giggle, show him a little respect and he’s hooked. So I’m here to help you keep your man!
Here is the secret: A merry heart makes a cheerful countenance, but a broken spirit brings sorrow of the heart! Proverbs 15:13
Your husband wants to feel wanted and respected just by your countenance! He wants to walk in the front door and see you smiling, with eyes of excitement! He wants you to passionately kiss him, for no reason other than you think the world of him! He wants to look into your eyes and feel like you desire him!
In order to have a cheerful countenance, you must work on guarding your heart from negative thoughts of him (even if he’s done something to deserve your wrath!) When a negative thought comes into your mind, throw it out immediately and replace it with loving thoughts. This of course takes practice, so pay attention to your feelings. If you’re feeling stressed, anxious, fearful or sad, trace those feelings back to the thoughts and destroy them.
The second step to having a cheerful countenance, is to flood your mind with thoughts about how wonderful your husband is, regardless of what he’s done, is doing or you think he will do! Let me tell you a secret, adulteress’ are more than willing to forgive and over look your husband’s sin if it means she can have him, are you?
I hate to be so brutal, but we wives often think it’s our duty to punish our husband’s for their sin. I’m not saying it’s easy to forgive, and I know it’s a healing process, but in the mean time, while you’re trying to heal, trust, move forward, satan is bringing a seductive women that will be more than willing to forgive him and accept him as he is!
Fight for your man! As I stated above, complacency breeds failure.
Stay alert, always be aware that attacks can come at anytime! Usually, it will start with him being withdrawn, that’s a clue for you that satan is attacking his thoughts, it might not be another women, it may just be stress and worries about work! Pray continually and powerfully for him!
Keep communication open! Weekly coffee dates are great for connection! Sit down alone, without the distractions of food, t.v. and kids and share your heart. I often bring my journal and share my heart secrets with him. It’s hard at first, because we are so used to protecting our hearts, but over time you’ll realize your heart is safe with your husband and he’ll also begin to open up!
Keep him well fed sexually! Make sure you don’t go long periods of time (more than a couple of days without making love!) Adulteress’ know that men like to be creative and are drawn by beauty, so you must fix your hair and make-up and be creative! Use different rooms, buy new undergarments, night gowns or you might shed those sweats and crawl into bed naked, that will shock him!
The very best advice of all is, FLIRT, FLIRT, FLIRT with your husband! What drew your husband to you? Let me remind you, because like me, I know you’ve gotten so busy with the kids, work, chores and paying the bills, that you’ve forgotten; it was your beautiful countenance, your excitement to see him, the way you made him feel about himself! He felt like he could conquer the world as long as you were by his side! Does he feel the same today? If not get busy girlfriend, it’s never too late for a do over!
My husband and I reconciled just days before our divorce was to be final! That was 18 years ago! I can honestly say, it hasn’t been easy, but it’s been well worth it, we have a beautiful, strong, loving marriage and I want you to have one too!
Rhonda Ferguson
Helping People To Take Back Their Hi-jacked Life God’s Way!
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