Why is it so easy in a new relationship to put in the effort? In fact it doesn’t even seem like we have to make a conscious effort to take initiative, we are excited to call/text, be with them, plan dates etc. Then the newness wears off and we slip into a rut and over time it feels hard to make an effort, to show our partner that we love them, desire them, think about them and want to be with them.
It really comes down to WHO is making the effort?
The ego has no problem at all making an effort if it’s going to benefit it in some way.
When I was an adulteress 22 years ago, making an effort wasn’t even a thing in those relationships, rather it was a pull, or a temptation that turned into an addiction to that newness, that made the ego feel special.
The last illicit affair I was involved in; had was the result of me spiraling down into depression as my husband and I were going through the divorce process. This pain and suffering caused me to cry out to God for help, in which I was told two things:
I did choose option B and obeyed the edict to “go home!” My husband and I stopped our divorce just two days before it was final and we did in fact raise our children together and now we have two beautiful grandsons, we are enjoying together.
Returning home to my husband wasn’t the end of the story!
About 11 years after I returned home, I was pulling into a shopping center near my home, when all of a sudden my ex-boyfriend (whom I left my husband for) walked in front of my car, and stood there smiling at me for a minute and then walked away. As I coasted forward, I looked back over my right shoulder and he had vanished. Trying to shop I felt very perplexed, shocked and dumbfounded. I got home as quickly as I could to try and find him on the internet. I wanted to know if he had moved to my area and if I would be running into him in the future. Since I couldn’t find him on the internet, I did a little research and instead found his son’s Facebook, in which he had posted a tribute to his late father who had just recently passed away.
Back To Effort:
Coming back to my husband took great effort to renew my mind, and show him love and devotion as we healed our marriage. I had to set up rules and boundaries for myself, so as to not give into the egotistical mind and it’s temptations.
Fourteen years later, I began doing the Heart Surgeries and dismantling the egotistical mind. As this was taking place, my True Self: Gypsy Spirit began to emerge. It felt like I was getting stronger and stronger, but in reality; I am infinitely powerful in the Divine and temptations vanished.
Effort now comes from Gypsy Spirit, from a place of love, expecting nothing in return, while experiencing the joy of watching other beings walk in freedom and peace as a result of my effort.
Egos put effort into what it thinks will result in it’s own happiness!
Spirits put effort into everything, because that’s what being love is! As a result happiness and great joy are experienced, because we are being our True Self which is love!
If we are agreeing with the ego’s excuses, being lazy, apathetic, and effortless, we are opening ourself up to guilt, shame and regret! Which is veiling us from our True Identity, this is self sabotaging at it’s finest.
Throw out the ego’s excuses and put in the effort to be helpful, loving, kind, encouraging and supportive. Then you’ll awaken to the Divine Being that you Truly are and where happiness resides.
Gypsy Spirit
Guiding people out of the darkness of their egotistical mind and into the light of what they Truly are!
